People I know




One of my readers suggested that I provide a glossary of pseudonyms for the people I often mention in this blog.  The list below is an attempt to identify these people and how they relate to me, so that you, the reader, can have an idea of their importance in my life.
  • AOG - A former co-op board member who knows that I'm transgender, and who I've met in both presentations.
  • BAB - A former coworker from the bank I used to work for who has gone through some hard times.  Sadly, he has since passed away and is missed by all that knew him.
  • BXM - A friend I met via OK Cupid.  We interact as female friends, although she knows I am transgender.  She has never met me in male mode. 
  • CC - A woman who I met through a member of the transgender community. 
  • CSN - A woman I was engaged to before I got married to my wife in 1985. Our lives intersected again after I was widowed (in 1997), but she never knew that I was transgender. 
  • DS/YGD - A woman I know from the Yonkers Gaming Meetup, with whom I go on hikes in the region.
  • Ex-GF-M - A woman I dated for 8 years (2003-2011), but grew to dislike yet didn't have the emotional strength to leave for years.  One of three siblings, she always seemed to be playing the role of "the good daughter", getting stuck with family responsibilities that she should have been sharing with her brother and sister.
  • FCP - A former traveling vendor to a site I once worked at. She is my former cruise partner, and our friendship ended due to events that happened on our last cruise. 
  • FH - A cisgender woman who I've dated who knows about my bi-gendered nature.  (We are just friends now, but sometimes I wonder about her intentions.)
  • Fran - A transgender woman I know from the GLBT center at which I volunteer.
  • GFJ/XGFJ - A recent former girlfriend . She knows I'm transgender.  She had undergone a divorce, dealt with its aftermath, and had an upbeat attitude.  Now, after a major dispute which ruined my reputation in her area of the Hudson Valley, we have resumed limited contact.
  • HWA - A former board member of my co-op who knows me in both genders. 
  • HWJ - A board member of my co-op, with whom I've associated in both genders. 
  • HWV - The current president of my co-op.
  • JS - A woman I met at a Meetup. (She was an unwitting catalyst for my breakup with XGFJ, although she had no role in the situation.)
  • JTX - A woman who is part of Stephanie's Texas meetup group, with whom I got to know well via our scheduled Zoom sessions.
  • Kelly - Fran's cisgender Daughter, who I often work with at the GLBT center.
  • KOL - The Clinical Supervisor at Mercy College. We have continued to keep contact after I stopped therapy sessions at Mercy.
  • LK - My former student clinician at Mercy College. We have continued to keep contact after her internship ended.
  • LR - A member of Yonkers Game Night meetup.  I have visited her when she was in the hospital, and she has given me several Christmas gifts. She is a woman I'd like to get to know better as just a friend, as she is married to another member of the game night group.
  • Maria - A former coworker from the bank I used to work for.  Divorced once and remarried, she has two adult daughters and two grandchildren that she is raising. She has met me in both modes.
  • MAR - A woman half my age whom I met in a meetup group, and with whom I try to meet once a month.
  • Pat (former hypnotist) - A woman who once worked to hypnotize me, helping me to lose 70 pounds (which I gained back after I started dating Ex-GF-M).  She is a leftist who believes in conspiracy theories, but is a warm person behind her shell.  She knows I am transgender, has met me in both modes, and prefers to see me as Marian.
  • Patty (ex Girlfriend) - A woman I dated from 2001-2003.  She has early retired from a job she held from her early 20's, and married a widower (Steve) that she met shortly after we broke up. Both she and her husband know I am transgender, and have met me in both modes.
  • RO - A woman I dated once in 2014, and stumbled into again in 2016.  Now married, the two of us still get together to go shopping and to have dinner now and then.
  • Stephanie/STX - A woman from a New York area meetup group that moved to Texas, with whom I've developed a close friendship during the pandemic through Zoom Meetups.
  • SJM - A woman I met on the job at the "imaging firm", with whom I've built up a friendship following our separation from the firm.
  • SRB - A transgender woman from Brooklyn with whom I get together now and then.
  • SWD - A woman from the former Whine and Dine meetup group with whom I have renewed contact and occasionally will meet for lunch.
  • Vicki #1 - A woman who I've known from the days I was married, and who has described me as her "Straight 'gay' best friend" because I go to events such as Broadway plays, while her husband prefers to go out hunting upstate. She has seen me in both male and female modes.
  • Vicki #2 - A woman I met via OK Cupid, and with whom I've developed a good friendship.  She is polyamorous, and I've met her husband, her girlfriend/life partner, and her son.  She has met me in both male and female modes, but I most often meet her in female mode.
  • WDJ - A woman who I met at a Beacon board game meetup. She knows I'm transgender, but never has met me in male mode.  She introduced me to the Whine and Dine meetup before she moved away to be with a man with whom she fell in love.  She's been mostly out of contact since the pandemic started, and is the kind of big mouth that can cause problems for people without realizing it.
  • WDS - A male friend since college. He was the "Best Man" at my wedding, and has no idea that I'm transgender.
  • YGM - A woman I met at the Yonkers board game meetup.  She knows I'm transgender, and we interact only in female mode.  She has two young children and a husband in the military.
  • YGN - A woman I met at the Yonkers board game meetup.  She had her first child in 2015, and no longer is a regular at game night. (This woman and her husband have moved to Los Angeles, and we are only in contact via Facebook.)

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