Like many transgender people, I was very nervous when I went out in female clothing for the first time. To transmit femininity, I always erred on the feminine side of things. But this wasn't always the best thing to do. Like many people of our "tribe", I had to learn how to be comfortable in the feminine equivalents of male garments. In short, I had to learn how to wear feminine trouser like garments that say "female" without overdoing it.
These days, you'll find me going out in a pair of women's slacks, with a feminine top. It says "female" without having to shout it out loud. In the ugly picture above, you'll note that I am wearing leggings under that top. And they are comfortable. Now if only I had the curves to do what I wear justice! Depending on what I wear, I can look good - or, look like a watermelon packed into a sausage casing. Either way, I am not happy with my appearance.
In the end, none of us look as good as we hope to look, nor do we look as bad as we fear. I live in an area that tolerates people like us as long as we do our best to blend in. I'll never be that pretty, but I make my way around. And that may be the most important thing....
2 comments:
I guess none of us ever feel we look our best. On my recent outings, which shall be posted as time permits, I had those same feelings. But everything worked out OK, and in the relatively few interactions with people, I was either addressed as the female I appeared to be, or they omitted any gender specific greeting.
BTW you looked fine to me!
Mandy
we learn as we age and realize we don't need to overcompensate with clothing choice. The internals will radiate through :)
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