Like many transgender people, I was very nervous when I went out in female clothing for the first time. To transmit femininity, I always erred on the feminine side of things. But this wasn't always the best thing to do. Like many people of our "tribe", I had to learn how to be comfortable in the feminine equivalents of male garments. In short, I had to learn how to wear feminine trouser like garments that say "female" without overdoing it.
These days, you'll find me going out in a pair of women's slacks, with a feminine top. It says "female" without having to shout it out loud. In the ugly picture above, you'll note that I am wearing leggings under that top. And they are comfortable. Now if only I had the curves to do what I wear justice! Depending on what I wear, I can look good - or, look like a watermelon packed into a sausage casing. Either way, I am not happy with my appearance.
In the end, none of us look as good as we hope to look, nor do we look as bad as we fear. I live in an area that tolerates people like us as long as we do our best to blend in. I'll never be that pretty, but I make my way around. And that may be the most important thing....
