Recently, I scheduled lunch with a friend from where I used to work. Sadly, she is recovering from Covid, and I felt safer postponing our lunch until she has had more time to recover.
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My friend is one of two people I want to keep in touch with at the old job. Although she knows I'm trans, she treats me as if I were a cisgender female. Unfortunately, our schedules are hard to get into sync, as she is busy every morning, and has family responsibilities which I won't go into here. As a result, the only time we can meet is on Fridays for lunch.
There are certain people in my life who are hard to schedule things with. One of which is the former student clinician with whom I helped develop my feminine voice. She's a person who I will likely need to find a way to squeeze her into my schedule when she is free. And then, there are the people who live far enough away that we can't schedule a last minute get together.
We all have friends like those I mention. But these friendships seem harder to establish and maintain when one is transgender. There are people who look at us in a strange way and fear us. There are others who dislike us and consider us as untouchables for being transgender. But there are the remaining people who accept us as people, no matter how far from the statistical norm we are. So, I cherish those friendships I make as Marian, and work hard to have them become stronger over time.
Hopefully, I'll be able to maintain these friendships as my relationship with RQS grows. Keep your fingers crossed....
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