For most people, it's easy to figure out how to get dressed for the day. For me, things are a little more complicated. First, I need to make sure of which gender presentation is expected of me that day. And only then can I make the next decision - what to wear. Most of the time, this is a simple process. If the day involves foul weather, strenuous work, or otherwise requires the presence of Mario, I dress as a male. However, if the day allows or requires Marian's presence, I dress as a female. And then, I try to figure out what a cisgender female would likely wear that day.
Normally, I keep track of my future presentations by color coding entries in my online calendar. But this doesn't always work for me, as I have to allow for days where I present as Marian for part of the day, then Mario for the other part of the day. So far, I don't recall many days where I start the day as Marian, switch to Mario, and then back to Marian. But I'm pretty sure that I have had to do this switch on occasion.
As Marian, I try to wear dresses as often as possible. RQS says that I'm more of a girly girl than she is. In response, I remind her that she will always be the cisgender female in the relationship. (Yes, I use other words. But I use them to reinforce her femininity and the idea that I can and will not compete with her true femininity.) So far, she is comfortable with this. But sometimes, I wonder....
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