I don't know how I stumbled onto the above picture of Alfred and Alice E. Newman. But it illustrates how the true essence of an individual will show through, no matter the gender presentation of that individual. In my case, my true friends see me as the same person in both male and female modes, although they are sometimes surprised when I show up in the alternate presentation.
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Planning my gender presentation can be a hassle. For example, I have a book at the library that I want to pick up, and that requires that I show myself in Mario mode. Yet, RQS and I plan to get a Mani-Pedi this weekend, so I will need to present myself as Marian for my visit to the nail spa. This is a typical scheduling problem for me, as I have to figure out ways to do some things that require Mario to be present, while I will be out as Marian later in the day. However, once I'm wearing nail polish, I'm stuck in Marian mode for the better part of a week (or more).
I have other scheduling issues to deal with. Having a steady relationship with RQS, I do my best to make sure that my weekends are dedicated to being with her. This has meant that my solo social life has been limited to weekdays. But this also poses a challenge, as many of my friends are single (or in relationships such as mine) and are still working. It's not easy to find times where both my friends and I are available to do things in the evening.
Yet, I manage. I use a color coded calendar to tell me which presentation to use when out for the day. On days where both Mario and Marian need to show their faces, I make sure that Mario gets the morning shift and Marian gets the evening shift. Even this isn't perfect. Sometimes, I need to be Marian in the morning, and Mario in the evening. So, I try to make sure that I don't have to switch modes more than once in a day, and then only when I'm not wearing nail polish.
As I said - it's hard to plan things when one lives in two gender presentations.
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