As most of my readers know, I live most of my life as a female these days. Yes, I'm legally male, but that isn't stopping me from enjoying most of the things that have been traditionally reserved for females. And yet, there are still things that keep pulling me to spend more time as a male - such as romance. For that reason, I have my daily calendar marked up with "Red" and "Green" days. Today, I noticed that I have some "Red" events scheduled after I get home for two weeknight evenings, and have two completely "Red" days scheduled over the weekend.
A while back, Fran told me that her decision to "Out" herself to the world happened when she had a meeting that required her to present as a male, but showed up for that meeting as a female. Since I want to control my "Outings", I've had to develop a good method of scheduling my time to retain that control. (This is part of why I was so pissed off at someone a couple of years ago. But I won't bore you with that story now.) I don't mind outing myself to people - there are people with whom I've outed myself, simply because I felt there was little risk in doing so.
For the next few days, my evenings are taken up by zoom meetings, dinner with a new friend, and time with RQS. There's not much "Me Time" left. Vicki said that's normal and OK - it's nice to know that you're spending time with someone again. The reason why one goes to meetups is that one needs to occupy empty time in one's schedule. "Me Time" can be found by removing unneeded things from the schedule.
Right now, I have created "Me Time" by dropping weekend meetups from my schedule. And weeknight meetups are next to come. Yet, I will miss the meetups, as they served a purpose when I needed to be with people more than I do now....
