I have to stop and smell the roses from time to time. Today was one of those times. Even though I didn't get the sleep I feel I need, I felt rested. Yet, it was a nice day to stay indoors and enjoy a "jammie day" for most of the morning and afternoon. You might wonder why I opened up my entry this way. Well, I've been thinking of a lot of things as of late. And one of those things has been understanding and appreciating the options I have as a "semi-retired" person.
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Recently, I went on a couple of interviews for part-time positions. One of these positions would likely have resulted in me (if hired) being taken on for full-time employment within a year. I would have enjoyed this, but would have felt a little sad due to the loss of an ability to take long cruises whenever I wanted to and could afford to do so. If I had known the importance of experiences when younger (youth is wasted on the young), I would have lived my life very differently than I did. Yet, I have few regrets, as I know that I would have needed much of the knowledge I have now to have effectively use my experiences to nourish my soul. And that includes the choices I made involving work, the career I chose, and my work/life balance.
When I was young, I never appreciated personal relationships, the value of chit-chat, or the need to stay tuned to what's going on in my community. I ended up marrying a woman who was very much like me in this respect, and we had a relationship that pulled each of us closer to the other while pushing all others away. Couple this with a job that would have me on call 24 hours, isolated from the trends in the computing industry, and minimally connected to others, and I would have problems in late middle-age when I lost many of the things that initially brought me success in life.
What would my late wife have thought if she could see me now? There's no way I can know that. But I think she might chuckle to know that I am regularly out and about as Marian, and that I'd scheduled a fancy dinner tonight with Vicki #1 as Marian. Hopefully, my wife would smile because of the confidence I've gained in the past few years due to my ability to present myself to the world as Marian without embarrassment.
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Several years ago, I'd have worried about what others would think if they saw me when presenting as Marian. Now, I don't give it a second thought - especially when going out to a nice restaurant. Tonight, I drove to Vicki's place at 6 pm, then she drove the rest of the way to Purdy's Farmer & the Fish for a Restaurant Week dinner. If I had known how bad her night vision was, I'd have volunteered to make the 30 minute drive. Not knowing where the restaurant was, Vicki overshot the place, and she made some driving mistakes on the way back to where the restaurant should have been. I noticed the entrance, and Vicki found a comfortable parking spot. Unfortunately, the ground was uneven, and I could feel the rocky ground beneath the soles of my shoes - this was the first of many rustic touches involving the restaurant.
Before opening the door, I noticed that the building built in 1775. The front door looked like it was as old as the house, and we both enjoyed the rustic atmosphere upon entering the place..The setting was nice, but the tables felt a little cramped; the food was tasty, but something was off. Both of knew what the problem was - the lights were way too dim to allow patrons to fully enjoy the food. Even the best of food presentations will be harmed by poor lighting, and we missed out on much of the visual experience of eating a good meal.
I told Vicki about things with GFJ and with my former cruise partner. Vicki understood the situation with GFJ, and made a comment that reflected a problem that GFJ and I had from the beginning of our relationship. Unlike my former cruise partner, Vicki clearly sees our problems and understands what we have to overcome if our relationship is a long term relationship. We talked about her life and issues with money. She has to be the frugal person, as her husband is not as good as she is with managing significant sums of money. Then we got talking about the cruise partner. Vicki agreed with me about my need to sever the connections with this woman instead of seeking out a reconciliation - some people won't grow unless unneeded scaffolding is removed. Now, Vicki is very glad that she never had the opportunity to meet this person....
It would be easy for me to go on and on. Even though I don't see Vicki that often, I am glad I have her as a friend. I appreciate how level headed she is and how we connect with each other. Too bad that sometime in the next few years, that she will retire and move elsewhere. Until then, I'll cherish the friendship I have with her....
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