Tomorrow, the handyman will come to repair the tile wall in the bathroom. I dread this necessary headache, as it will soon be followed by electrical work that requires virtually all my furniture be moved for outlet replacement. ARRGH!
With this looming ahead of me, I was glad to meet Vicki for dinner before she goes on her vacation. Vicki is trying to get her health in order, so that she can have a needed medical procedure. (And no, I won't go into any more details here.) So, I know that getting together with me is a special occasion for her. Over dinner, we talked about many things, and she made a comment that echoes with other people I know - they see me as the same person, no matter which gender I am presenting as at the moment.
I think that a key to understanding a transgender person is seeing that his/her soul is the same person, no matter how the person chooses to appear to the world. Yes, there will be women who get upset at the M2F transgender person for invading "women's space". And I can understand that. Many M2F transgender people want to carry their former male privilege into their female lives, and this can not be done and be accepted by females as equals. Yet, I feel that the cisgender world should "get over it." To me, being transgender is a form of intersex condition, where the brain is wired to be of one gender, but the body is programmed in utero to be the other.
The transwoman I mentioned in an earlier post has reverted to life as a cisgender, heterosexual man. And he seems to have found a new potential woman in his life. I wish the best for them, as life for a person my age can be a struggle without the issues of being trans to complicate things. At least, he'll be able to live a less complex life - for now. As for me, I'll deal with my complexities as long as possible, as I have no intentions of eradicating what I've gained by being Marian from my life.
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