It's been almost a month since I've been able to join the group playing games in Yonkers. And it was great fun being there, even though I had to leave early so that I could go to work early the next morning.
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Like one person I know, for whom going to her meetups are like going to church, this meetup is like a church for me. It's where I feel at home. Unlike that person, I wouldn't be bothered if she were to come to my meetup and meet the welcoming people there. It is a warm and friendly bunch of people.
I have a simple rule of thumb that I will use to determine whether a person is a good fit for me. First, will she accept me both as Mario and as Marian? And if so, would she fit in with this group of people. Unlike the girlfriend in my last relationship, I will invite the special person in my life to join me now and then. I won't want for that person to feel excluded from my life.
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Why do I reference the past here? Well, even when one is looking forward, one has to look in the rear view mirror to make sure that what's in the past stays there. If the connection between two points is a line, then I want to make sure that I'm heading in the right direction, and not doubling back on my path.
Right now, I'm seeing a nice lady. But I don't think she'll be the right person for me. She's not as well versed in as many things as I am, things that help to define the popular culture of the age in which we grew up. For example, I don't expect a potential partner to have watched as many movies as I have. But I do expect that partner to know that "As Time Goes By" comes from the movie "Casablanca." I would expect that woman to know that "When I'm sixty four" is a classic Beatles' tune. I could go on and on, but I'd be making this person sound much worse than she is. And I don't want to do her an injustice. (There is one red flag that I can not ignore, but I won't mention it here right now.)
Compared to last year, things are looking up for me in the dating department. There are some people I'll want to keep as friends. And there are some people who are total bores. Over time, I expect that things will work themselves out. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.
