Tonight, I left RQS to take care of things at home. But I notice one thing about her: She's always trying to take care of the little things that I'll let sit for a while. As much as I am grateful for this, I also wish that she could put down her burdens for a while and relax a little. And this got me thinking....
How much of what could be perceived as male laziness around the house can be attributed to women taking on responsibilities too quickly?
A while back, RQS had a situation where her brother should have stepped up and taken on some responsibilities on his own. (I won't go into details here.) He didn't step up, and she had to take on the bulk of these responsibilities. What would have happened had she not stepped up? Chaos to say the least. Why do women let men get away with this?
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Years ago, a Jewish woman and I had a conversation regarding the roles of men and women in the faith. One of the prayers that the men chant has a phrase that thanks god for not being born as women. They recognized the role of women in the family, yet treated women as if they are subordinate. What lazy bums!!!! Shouldn't the men be taking on more responsibility to make their women's lives easier? Instead, they seem to be giving thanks to be allowed to be deadbeats.
Similar attitudes can be found in many faiths and cultures. And having been raised as a male, I absorbed some of these values when young, and have had to work to erase the dysfunctional subset of values from my belief system. Yet I wonder: Why don't more women just say NO and let the system that enslaves them fall apart?
