Have you ever read the passage from "The Walrus and the Carpenter" that reads:
The time has come,' the Walrus said,
To talk of many things:
Of shoes — and ships — and sealing-wax —
Of cabbages — and kings —
And why the sea is boiling hot —
And whether pigs have wings.
Well, to some degree my life has been like that as of late, as RQS and I have discussed the subject of me being transgender. And I've let her know (in no uncertain terms) that I will not make any body changes that would get in the way of our romance. But this sounds much more serious than the conversation we had.
One of the things we can laugh about is my preference for presenting as a female and enjoying as much of my life as possible as one. She is comfortable going to restaurants with me this way, as she sees the same person when I present as a male and when I present as a female. RQS enjoys going shopping with me in female mode, as it is another activity we can share with each other. But there is more to this relationship than laughter. We seem to be able to read each other's mind at times. Even with incomplete information, we seem to understand what the other is trying to say. And, even more importantly, she is comfortable raising troublesome topics with me before they become major irritants.
Neither of us are sure of what our long term living arrangements will be. But we are comfortable talking about arrangements for travel that will take place a year from now. This feels much better than the relationship I had with XGFJ, as we both assume that we have a future together - and talk about it. It's a damned shame that I had to through the hell I experienced 3 years ago to get where I am now....
