A while ago, I met a young woman at a meetup and developed a friendship. Well, not a close friendship, but more of someone I could meet for dinner on occasion, and not miss it we didn't meet for dinner.
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As my readers know well, I am lucky enough to be able to buy the things I want to buy - as long as it is in moderation. If I want to meet a friend for dinner, I schedule it - and worry about my diet (or lack of one) afterwards. My friend is far from being able to afford dinner, and cancels our get-togethers more often than not.
MAR is a 40 y/o health care aide who is getting tired of her job. She wants to find something else, but feels locked into her role. (I feel that she's afraid to spread her wings, but who am I to say?) Her vocal style does not project confidence and quick thinking, and that may be what's holding her back in life.
Her body is wearing out from the physical labor part of her job. Given that she is not a salaried worker, she depends on the number of hours that she clocks in to maximize her pay. Unfortunately, she has never been able to clear out her debt, and this means that she will cancel dinners at the last moment when there is too much week at the end of her money.
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Today, as I expected, MAR cancelled dinner at the local diner. I suggested a get-together 4 weeks later, and she feels she won't have money until July. Dollars to donuts, she'll look to schedule something and then cancel at the last moment.
I'm glad I don't count on this woman for serious friendship....
