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Thinking doesn't always come easy to me. But when I think, I think hard. (Or, am I hardly thinking?) But to be serious, I met with a friend who wanted to find out what I thought of the situation she was in.
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Over dinner, my friend told me about the issues she was having with a man in her life. Like her other friends, I told her that she should tell this fellow goodbye, then block his number on her phone. He seemed to be calling her when he had no one available to see or talk with, and that he was only interested in her for the purposes of having sex. AARGH.
After hearing her story, (Transgender) Mama Marian got into action (as if she was Cisgender) and told her what to do in no uncertain terms. And then, like a good Mama, I then gave her ideas of what to do with her life. As I see it, she needs to learn the skills needed to have a well paying career, find a good man, and then (if she wants) to be ready to have a baby before this option is no longer available to her.
When I got home, I chatted with RQS. she got a big laugh when I told her that I performing in the role of a cisgender woman, using language that identified me as a cis-woman, such as "us women", "I was unable to conceive and carry a baby to term", etc. Although the advice would be just as valuable coming from a male, it would not be received in the same way. I noted that all hetero men seem to be interested in getting laid. And there is nothing wrong with that. Women, having more to risk when having sex, tend to need men who will care for them even when sex can not be offered.
I figured that RQS would chew me out if I did anything wrong. However, she seemed to approve of what I did, as it was meant to help this woman friend. Hopefully, what I said will make a positive difference in my friend's life.
