My journey towards femininity, with all the bumps in the road. Who knows where this road will lead? But it certainly will be a prettier road, and one well worth traveling.
Showing posts with label iPad. Show all posts
Showing posts with label iPad. Show all posts
Thursday, December 12, 2019
Ambivalence is the order of the day
Lately, I've been caught in a web of ambivalent feelings. Now that options are being made available to me, I have mixed feelings about my choices. This may be a good thing, as 5.5 years of semi-retirement have taught me the value of having time to myself.
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Today started with a couple of calls, one of them being spam. The other was a reminder that my iPad was ready to be picked up from the fixit shop, and that I should get there today. But I was tired from the night before, as I first went to sleep without my CPAP mask on, and then stayed awake until 5-6 am or so. There was no way I'd be up and out the door around 10, so I let myself wake up when my body wanted to do so.
Around 1 pm, I moseyed over to the fix-it shop and picked up my iPad. Then, it was over to the library to pick up some books that were being held for me. Unfortunately, only 2 of the 3 books were available. But that should give me a head start in catching up on things, as 1 of the books looks like it'll be a heavy read.
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The other day, when I got the first call from the census bureau, I wasn't sure if I wanted the position. My reason was simple - unless the money was too good to refuse, I didn't want to work as Mario again. Instead, I wanted (and still want) to work as Marian. But with the current anti-TG political regime in Washington, I wasn't sure about taking on the Office Operations Supervisor position. Did I want to go to work as Mario to earn a few extra dollars, or did I want to spend as much time as possible as Marian?
During the past week, I surveyed several people I knew from the TG community about whether I should: (1) Go to work as Mario for the duration of the job, (2) First go to work as Mario, and transition to Marian on the job, or (3) Start off going into work as Marian, even if it meant not getting the position in the first place. Given that I knew of at least one cisgender male who goes to work in female garb, I figured that I needed to find out whether I could do so before starting the pre-employment process.
When I got home from today's errands, I returned yesterday's call asking whether I received paperwork. While on the phone, I took the opportunity to ask whether there would be any problems with me being gender non-conforming. And I was told that this would not be a problem. YAY! Now, I am much more comfortable with the idea of taking on this position, as I can go in to work in female mode every day.
Wednesday, December 11, 2019
I really didn't want to get up and out early, but....
After I got home from Church on Sunday, I decided to hunker down and wait for the end of the expected snow storm. At the end of the first wave of snow, GFJ had 4 inches on the ground, while we had gotten much less down here. Since the weathermen were predicting another 6 inches or so around here, Monday's activities were postponed or cancelled. So I was prepared for the worst when I got up this morning - and the worst didn't happen....
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My alarms were set to wake me up before 8 am. This would give me enough time to clean off my car, then go inside to shower, shave, and get dressed as Mario. Around 10:30, I'd drive to the outskirts of Peekskill, so that I could have an interview for a technology administrator position that was scheduled yesterday. By the time I got outside to clean off my car, there wasn't much snow on the ground, nor was there much on my car. Instead, there was about .75cm of ice covering the glass surfaces, which I proceeded to melt with a bottle of alcohol spray I keep in the car for this purpose.
The clock hit 10:30, and off to Peekskill I drove, reaching a site down the road from the resource recovery center on John Walsh Boulevard. (This is a part of Peekskill not connected to the downtown business district, and to be safe, I used my GPS to get there.) Once upstairs, I ended up waiting for about 10 minutes before my interview. Although the interview went well, I don't think I'm the person they want for the job. My skill sets are rusty, and I don't feel I was at my best. What I found most interesting about the interview was the use of a script explaining what the census was and why it is done. (I'll bet that they've had too many people over the years asking dumb questions that they should have learned in a Civics class - if this class was still offered in schools.) The 2 questions I had, they couldn't answer - When would I hear back from them? and When would they expect me to start if offered the position? The fact that they couldn't supply that information says their ramp up process is flawed.
Once I was done with the Census Bureau, I decided to bring my iPad back to the place that installed a new battery. I said that it wasn't working, and let the tech take the device in for analysis. Although he said that he'd look at the iPad right away, I'd be just as happy if he didn't have it ready until tomorrow morning....
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I left later than I should for tonight's dining meetup, and I was the last person there. Everyone else was already seated, so I stood near a table or two, and chatted for a while with the groups at each table. Unfortunately, there was one group that I didn't speak with much - and I'll be sure to catch up with them next week. Because I was the only person sitting at a table with no one with me (about 7 or 8 people cancelled for the evening), the group at one table and I moved to a larger table, where we all had room to spread out. I'm glad that the group's hostess thought of this - she is a nice lady.
On the way home, I called GFJ, and she called back just as I was hitting a Route 9 cell phone dead spot. Once out of the dead spot, I called her back, and we chatted about things until I reached the Walmart in Mohegan Lake. $20 later, I left the store and headed home for the night.
Wednesday, December 4, 2019
Thinking about an old friend
I first met WDS when I was 16. That was about 46 years ago. He lived around the block from the college we once attended. In many ways, he was the smarter of the two of us. Yet, he was the one to praise my intelligence. He never graduated from the school. Yet, he had a more successful technical career than I had. He had the drive to keep up with changing times and provide for his own security, where I was secured by the bronze handcuffs of the firm I once worked for.
WDS was born in South America, and immigrated to the US at a young age. I don't know much about his pre-college years, as we never discussed that part of his life. At the time I met him, he was playing around with experimental music. But the thing we had most in common was an interest in programming computers. He saw me as the young kid who'd sneak into computer centers to have his programs run. (I was the type who'd hack security to do what I wanted to do, but never had the wish to cause others any harm.) He was the more pragmatic one of our motley pairing. Education was to serve a purpose, and when formal education was no longer needed, he dispensed with it.
There is a several year difference in our ages, and he was the one who first found a full time job. A year later, I followed suit, and left the world of day-time studies. (I finished my undergraduate degree at night, taking 4 calendar years to finish my last year of studies.) Eventually, we ended up in the same firm - for about 2 weeks. And then, our career paths never crossed again. However, we did take advantage of the fact that we were young, had high incomes, and no responsibilities. I can still remember going into Greenwich Village for a French Dinner that cost each of us $100 - almost 40 years ago. (Could you imagine what I could have done had I been more frugal with my money?)
As with most cisgender males, women have a "nasty" habit of coming into our lives. I never was that successful in dating. But WDS was, and got married to a woman who couldn't stand my presence. So we lost contact for several years. And then, out of the blue, WDS reestablished contact after getting a divorce and our friendship was renewed. A few years later, WDS met another woman and married her. This time things were better - the two of them got along well, and his wife was able to tolerate (if not feel comfortable with) my friendship with WDS.
During this era, I got a job with the bank, and was there for 30 years. I also met my wife, and WDS was best man at our wedding. But our lives grew further and further apart - we had very different interests, and WDS had the social polish that I could never have. (His father was a successful man in South America, and made sure that he had the social skills to travel in any social circle.)
My friend was there for me when my wife took ill and when she died. And I was there for him when his wife committed suicide. Sadly, she suffered from the same type of cancer that took my late wife, and didn't want to spend the last 2 months of her life doped up and unable to have rational thought. Almost a decade later, I can still remember the basic details of that evening as if it were yesterday.
The last time I saw WDS was at a local pizzeria. He came up to meet me and Ex-GF-M. We had a nice lunch, and I always thought that I would see him again. That hasn't happened. However, about t years later, he sent me a gift - a fully loaded iPad Air 2, with LTE for when I don't have WiFi access. This must have set him back a nice penny.
In the years since then, we have communicated exclusively by email. I neither have a mailing address or phone number for him. He does work for the local "Agility" (competitive dog training) circuit where he lives, but there is little trace of him otherwise. I know that he kept busy doing very technical things - software technology that I don't even understand. He has suggested that I get back into programming. But I wouldn't know how to get back in and make a buck from it. So I decided to take down my technology shingle and let youngsters with more energy stay in that rat race.
WDS does not yet know that I am trans. I just wonder what would happen when or if he finds out....
WDS was born in South America, and immigrated to the US at a young age. I don't know much about his pre-college years, as we never discussed that part of his life. At the time I met him, he was playing around with experimental music. But the thing we had most in common was an interest in programming computers. He saw me as the young kid who'd sneak into computer centers to have his programs run. (I was the type who'd hack security to do what I wanted to do, but never had the wish to cause others any harm.) He was the more pragmatic one of our motley pairing. Education was to serve a purpose, and when formal education was no longer needed, he dispensed with it.
There is a several year difference in our ages, and he was the one who first found a full time job. A year later, I followed suit, and left the world of day-time studies. (I finished my undergraduate degree at night, taking 4 calendar years to finish my last year of studies.) Eventually, we ended up in the same firm - for about 2 weeks. And then, our career paths never crossed again. However, we did take advantage of the fact that we were young, had high incomes, and no responsibilities. I can still remember going into Greenwich Village for a French Dinner that cost each of us $100 - almost 40 years ago. (Could you imagine what I could have done had I been more frugal with my money?)
As with most cisgender males, women have a "nasty" habit of coming into our lives. I never was that successful in dating. But WDS was, and got married to a woman who couldn't stand my presence. So we lost contact for several years. And then, out of the blue, WDS reestablished contact after getting a divorce and our friendship was renewed. A few years later, WDS met another woman and married her. This time things were better - the two of them got along well, and his wife was able to tolerate (if not feel comfortable with) my friendship with WDS.
During this era, I got a job with the bank, and was there for 30 years. I also met my wife, and WDS was best man at our wedding. But our lives grew further and further apart - we had very different interests, and WDS had the social polish that I could never have. (His father was a successful man in South America, and made sure that he had the social skills to travel in any social circle.)
My friend was there for me when my wife took ill and when she died. And I was there for him when his wife committed suicide. Sadly, she suffered from the same type of cancer that took my late wife, and didn't want to spend the last 2 months of her life doped up and unable to have rational thought. Almost a decade later, I can still remember the basic details of that evening as if it were yesterday.
The last time I saw WDS was at a local pizzeria. He came up to meet me and Ex-GF-M. We had a nice lunch, and I always thought that I would see him again. That hasn't happened. However, about t years later, he sent me a gift - a fully loaded iPad Air 2, with LTE for when I don't have WiFi access. This must have set him back a nice penny.
In the years since then, we have communicated exclusively by email. I neither have a mailing address or phone number for him. He does work for the local "Agility" (competitive dog training) circuit where he lives, but there is little trace of him otherwise. I know that he kept busy doing very technical things - software technology that I don't even understand. He has suggested that I get back into programming. But I wouldn't know how to get back in and make a buck from it. So I decided to take down my technology shingle and let youngsters with more energy stay in that rat race.
WDS does not yet know that I am trans. I just wonder what would happen when or if he finds out....
Wednesday, November 20, 2019
Lunch with my Ex-Boss
Today I had two things on my docket, and both of them had to be done in my male presentation. First was lunch with my Ex-Boss, and then my monthly Co-Op Board meeting. And I was wishing that I could have put on a dress and gone to a museum....
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Normally, I don't fully wake up until sometime between 8:30 and 10:00. Today, my journey to full consciousness started a little before 10:00, and I wasn't really moving until 10:30. This gave me about 2 hours to get dressed (as Mario), pick up my iPad (with its new battery), then drive to Rockland County to meet my ex-boss. And I barely accomplished all this in time.
Lunch with my ex-boss is always interesting, as we talk about the past, present and future. The past is usually business talk, and today was no different than usual. But today, I had job interviews to tell him about (without mention of going as Marian). And this was pleasant news to relate. Then we got into our usual political conversation - and we both have the same fears about the present and future. Neither of us like our president, and we both have concerns about what would happen if he stays in office, or is replaced by the vice president. We can't wait until 11/03/20, when we can exercise our right to vote....
Since we were expecting winter weather, we ended lunch a little earlier than usual. Luckily, none of the bad weather arrived before I started my drive home. And I was inside my apartment before 4:00. This gave me enough time to take care of some things and get ready for the co-op board meeting.
As usual, I won't go into details about the board meeting. But, compared with this time last year, everything was better than we expected. Everything was in order, and we were very happy with the way things had developed over the past year. Yes, there are some headaches that we (and other co-op boards) need to address because of New York State law changes that took place this summer. But we can now give them the proper thought required, an effort that would have been impossible at this time last year.
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