My journey towards femininity, with all the bumps in the road. Who knows where this road will lead? But it certainly will be a prettier road, and one well worth traveling.
A while back, I mentioned a conversation I had with someone interrogating me regarding my dating success and other things. The entire conversion is posted at the bottom of this entry for your entertainment.
Most of my female friends complain about the number of scammers trying to take advantage of them. I have found that men seem to be attacked less frequently, but are attacked by two kinds of people: (1) The "hit and run" scammer, who messages you and tries to get in contact with you by other mediums (email, etc.) before the dating site shuts their ID down, and (2) The "interrogator" scammer, who wants a complete profile before targeting you for their next sugar daddy. Most of the time, OK Cupid shuts the former type down after a few hours of swiping right on everyone they see. However, they are less able to keep the latter type from bothering people. The first time I was in contact with this type, she gave up on scamming me and cut off contact. The conversation below is from the second type.
First, some background: This exchange took place shortly after Thanksgiving. This woman is supposedly in the catering business. You'll note that she's hinting that I am a fake early on. And, she made a comment out of the blue regarding Black people lovable people. What does that have to do with the conversation we're having? Most of all, her language skills clued me on to the fact that this person is a scam artist of some type.
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Hi
Hi _ hope you had a nice holiday. Hopefully, the pandemic hasn't destroyed your business. All too many people have been destroyed by the pandemic, one of my friend was $800 away from being evicted from her home in Texas.
Im still ok
Being okay in this time of the pandemic is a good thing period. One person I know is so busy because she lost an employee and is now working seven days per week. These are strange times.
Only bored
I hope you haven’t lost much of your income stream. So many people I know have been devastated
A bit
Do u travel alone
Both alone and with a partner
Lost that friend a year ago due to a nasty argument
Ohhh a lot of ladies
Can we have vedio call
Maybe tomorrow or Tuesday. Too tired tonight.
Ok why tired
How many gf since u lost ur wife
Have been on phone for 3.5 hours. 7. Over 24 years.
Ur chatting a lot
I dont chat much wasting time on fake people
But im in phone whole day
Fb u tube
Do you do zoom? We could chat in evening
And yes I do chat a lot.
Have u encountered fake people
Some fakes. One crazy person was criticizing me for not optimally managing my money. It was as if she wanted to scam me out of my money
Ok
Do u rent or own a place
I have found that women are more victims of scammers than men. One of my female friends get hit on by scammers every day, and shares her experiences with me. It’s amazing how bad the scammers are.
I live in a co-op. It’s a nice garden apartment.
Yes
How about you?
In nyork!!!
Yup. In NY
I live with my daughter now but i have 4 houses in philippines
2 rented out
Ah
N i free for my workers
Yes
What is ur weight
U are retired
Yes, retired
Whats ur job before
Computers
Are u committed now
Single
I think black man are lovable person
Why do you think that?
They keep on sending messages
Ah
Sending flowers
Not true of all
But i dont chat them
I dont talk to fake people
I dont like wasting time
Can’t blame you. I’m careful too
How long u been here in site
A few months
Ohh
I always ask vedio call
I’m not in a hurry
Actually im tired
I usually Try to meet in person for coffee first. Video calls are good, but they do not show that the person is local.
Ok bye for now
Bye
What u mean local
For example, if a person says they are from Fort Lee New Jersey, I want to meet them at a Starbucks in Fort Lee New Jersey. This way I am not getting a scammer from overseas.
Yes, Santa is exhausted, and so was I after leaving my brother's place on Christmas. Lately, I've been getting too little sleep, and slept later than I planned before going to see my brother for the day.
This year, I had my doubts about visiting my brother, as I am concerned about catching the virus. Considering everything, I decided to drive to Long Island to see him and his family. I was an hour later than planned, but just in time to eat. As seems to have become a habit, my sister in law is being anti social, and only comes out of the bedroom for a few minutes before going back inside.
It was nice to meet my nephew's girlfriend. And when I said that I was originally planning on being in her area this year, my brother said that she comes from Seattle. I said that I knew that, as I was going to mention a 21 day Panama Canal cruise that got canceled due to the virus. It was a pleasant trip, but not much to say about it
Yay! 2020 is finally over, and we've made it to 2021. The first thing I want to say is that I hope that one ailing reader of this blog is still able to read it. If anything happens to this reader, I hope that the spouse will drop me a line to let me know about things.
Last year was a very strange year. I've written about the dispute with my ex. But I have avoided mentioning that we've occasionally exchanged emails with each other. My Facebook page has nothing worthwhile for her to read, and a mutual friend of ours would say that I have said nothing that references the ex there. What I'll never tell her is that there will always be a part of me that will care for her, as both of us have likely put way too much between us to erase much of the pain from 2020.
Some of the strangeness of 2020 has to do with politics. We've seen a president virtually go crazy, and no one from his cabinet or his political party bother to do anything about it. We've been very lucky to see our election system hold, and that we will have a transfer of power on January 20th. Since I'm writing this a little before Christmas, none of us have any idea whether our current president will be present at our new president's inauguration. Will he be absent because he's to embarrassed to be present at an event that shows he's a loser? Will he be absent because the inauguration will be both quiet and private because of the pandemic? If I were the incoming president, I wouldn't bother with the usual pomp and circumstance, and would choose a private ceremony - to avoid creating a super spreader event.
I find it amazing how quickly "Big Pharma" developed vaccines for Covid-19. And it's just in time. America has gotten "pandemic tired" and needs to return to "normalcy". Last spring, none of us would even think of taking planes to see family on the other side of the country. Today, Thanksgiving and Christmas have both become a sort of super spreader event. I don't know how much longer we can take of not living "normal" lives. And I think many people will be emotionally scarred due to life changes necessitated by the pandemic.
2021 will bring a lot of changes with it. And I look forward to most of them. Hopefully, all of our lives will be a bit better this year....
Years ago, an American president said that December 7, 1941 is a day that will live in infamy. I say, that because of our current president, 2020 is a year that will live in infamy. When a online dating site posts an ad that even Satan could have a successful match with 2020, then it's easy to claim that this will be the worst year in many of our lives.
Earlier this year, I lost my dad. And then, due to events related to an argument with an ex girlfriend, I got blackballed from a meetup group. Such is life. Other people had it much worse than I did. Can you imagine a young bride having to postpone her wedding three times due to the pandemic? Even worse, what happens when both breadwinners in a small family have lost their jobs, and have to go on food lines to have enough for their family to eat? What about a teenager who loses both parents to the virus? Even worse, what about an extended family of 23 who loses 17 members? As I write this entry, over 300,000 lives have been lost. Many of these deaths could have been prevented, had our president taken the pandemic seriously and had modeled proper use of face masks and hand washing. Instead, he turned mask wearing into a political statement, and helped cause super spreader events which made the pandemic even worse.
But enough about the troubles of 2020. We've all had them, and there's not much we can do except to muddle through and carry on. Instead, I'd like to focus on the good things that happened this year. For example, many of us learned who our real friends are. These are people who would stand with us in time of need, and be there for us whenever we needed help. Many of us started to realize that our votes could make a difference, and used these votes to remove the grifter in chief from office as of 1/20/21. Even "Big Pharma" looked at the pandemic as an opportunity to speed up development of new vaccines at a breakneck speed. We're learning that even in the worst of times, there's a lot of good to be said about an imperfect species such as ours.
In spite of the bad things that happened to me and my family this year, I have benefited from what I've gained during the year. For example, I have developed new friendships while working at the census AND have had a chance to perfect my feminine presentation. When I was training a couple of new employees, one mentioned that she'd have never thought me anything other than a cisgender female, save for when she saw my name when I logged on to the computer. I've also learned better ways of projecting an authentic feminine image while doing things which would have me wearing trouser like garments - something many newly out transgender people need to learn. Most of all, I have been able to retain my sense of humor and have found out who really appreciates having me in their lives.
Yes, there is a part of me that wishes I could turn the clock back a year or two and do different things. I'd still have two people in my life that I cared about. But we can't live in the past. We can only move forward. And forward means entering into 2021 with hope that the coming year will be better than 2020 - a relatively low bar to reach.
I didn't leave my apartment building all day, as I didn't even bother getting out of my Jammies until I had a Zoom meeting to go to. Yes, I could have done much more during the day, but I was in no mood to bother showering, shaving, and getting dressed. And this suited me just fine.
As has become a custom lately, I didn't go to sleep until the sun started to rise. And I didn't get up until more than half the sunlight hours had gone by the wayside. Not having much that needed to be done right away, I proceeded to relax in bed and watch TV all day. Sometime in mid afternoon, there was a knocking on my door. Not wearing anything but a slip, I was not going to answer the door. Later on, I found out that our managing agent had left me a small token of appreciation - some Almond Nougat. Yum! I could easily ruin my blood sugar levels by finishing this gift in one night. But I didn't.
At this point, I was up and moving, so I figured that I'd change into the oversized T-Shirt type garment (above) that I usually use for lounging around and to sleep. It's not a pretty garment, but it is comfortable. And the next time I need to buy hosiery from this site, I will buy another one of these garments in a different color.
Now that I changed into this garment, it was time to do a quick make up job to make my face presentable as Marian. And then I logged into the Zoom meetup. After a couple of hours, it was just me and my friend who used to live in New York - and we gabbed for a couple of hours. During our chat, we noted that both of us would likely be good travel companions. However, I mentioned that I only wish that we both liked women, or that one of us were of the opposite sex. (Little does she know the equipment I was born with.) Even though 14 years separates us in age, I wish I could have met her as Mario. Heck, I wish I could reveal myself to her for who and what I am, and see if things could work. But I'd rather have this woman as a friend, than to place a extremely low probability bet on romance.
Once the Zoom meetup was over, I decided to walk downstairs to my mailbox as I was, and get my mail. Apart from an electric bill, I found a package addressed to me as Marian. What could this package be? It seems like a woman I am friends with from my gaming group saw the oven mitt (at the top of this entry) and thought of me. She is another woman, that in another time and another place, that I'd consider dating. But she is married (I also like this fellow quite a bit), and I know that she appreciates my friendship. Here is another friendship I wouldn't have if I were living my life primarily as Mario.
I don't think that some of my acquaintances will ever understand why I prefer being Marian over being Mario. As I like to think about it, women have closer friendships - most men are always suspect in their motives. Assuming this is true, it's a damn shame that biology and social systems isolate the male of our species - we could do much better if the two genders had more in common than we have right now....
